Try to imagine a media feature about a woman choosing to gain 50 pounds without an alarmist frame ,one unaccompanied by quotes from health care practitioners, pie charts, pearl clutching, all of which fail to conclude that the lady in question has lost the plot altogether. Also imagine that said married lady’s husband is not [...]
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I like to believe nobody has a perfect relationship with their parents, but at 35 I’m wondering when my relationship will shift from the constant power play to one of harmony and trust. I’ve done the transactional analysis on it and stopped accepting the role of child in our relationship. Changing actions and attitudes is [...]
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Most tips about dating targeted at single women amount to a Sisyphean course of self-improvement, whether the focus is on their appearance as complicit with the beauty mandate or with interpersonal skills such as listening and hobby development, all are designed to make women a better match and ring ready, which culture has emphasised since [...]
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Posted in Parenting, Relationships, Women on Feb 23rd, 2011
…opined my 4 1/2-year-old on the way back from school. He thought the concept quite laughable. Whilst I’m flattered, in a way, to be thought of as in a different category to all other women, according to him, it brought me up short. I’ve been reading unsettling things lately, which has added to my dis-ease [...]
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Posted in Personal, Relationships, Sex on Feb 16th, 2011
I love sex. And I love lots of sex – morning, noon and night. And this is precisely why I haven’t had it in years. I haven’t taken a vow of celibacy, and I’m clearly not saving it for marriage (I’ve already been married – and divorced – twice, so that ship has sailed). I’ve [...]
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Lisa McInerney: I remember well the February 14th I realised Valentine’s Day was not for me. I was eighteen, lurching through drizzle to get to a lecture, when a friend stopped me and asked excitedly what I had gotten for my boyfriend. “Nothing,” I said. “Am I supposed to?” For I had thought Valentine’s Day [...]
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Posted in Domestic, Men, Relationships on Feb 9th, 2011
Imagine, if you will, that you are a young professional woman. Through your profession you meet a man, a well dressed, well-groomed man. You fall for each other, date, and as people are wont to do, you move in together. So fine, so rosy. Imagine then, again if you will, in a short space of [...]
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Posted in Relationships, Sex on Feb 3rd, 2011
This is the sort of stuff that terrifies me. Wait until after you get married to have sex – an academic study and a family therapist say so! The therapist’s logic is that as sex is one of the most common causes of rows in relationships, it’s better to delay sex until after marriage. No, [...]
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Sociologist Dr. Catherine Hakim of the London School of Economics has, not for the first time, attracted considerable controversy in response to the publication last week of her most recent paper, “Feminist Myths & Magic Medicine”. Hakim has previously published provocatively titled works such as her 1996 paper “Mummy, I want to be a Housewife” [...]
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Posted in Health, Relationships, Women on Jan 11th, 2011
Welcome to 2011 and non prescribed emergency contraception becoming a reality. The reaction to the announcement that Boots are to dispense emergency contraception to women has been positive so far. Using a dispensing protocol which has been in place for other medications since last summer, Boots pharmacists will be able to meet with clients in [...]
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